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13 hours ago, user said:

I've no idea what the fuck I should do as I've clearly misjudged just about everything up to now and I couldn't be further from having even the most basic of my shit together than ever.

may sound harsh, but you coming to the realization there isn't anything you can do about your father's issues is something you should view as a positive. best to figure your own shit out first separately than whatever he's going through. we often times think we can solve other people's problems when we can't...it is up to them to solve their own shit...come to their own rescue, so to speak.

best course of action would be for him to talk to a psychologist/psychiatrist...but I know people don't like doing that. especially people in their 70's. I want my own parents to do this and they won't. my mom says she's been like this all her life (she's 74) and won't change at this point, so I just have to deal with it. I think that's bullshit. it is never too late to change. 

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On 11/25/2022 at 5:14 PM, ignatius said:

oof. heavy. sounds like you're doing a good thing by being in his life and reminding him to do the right things. other than physically taking him to the doctor and making him go to a few AA meetings i don't know what else you can do. dealing w/aging parents w/any kind of health issue is hard. at least you are close enough to talk about these things and be in his life. knowing where/when to draw the line is hard.  

 

On 11/25/2022 at 5:23 PM, zero said:

may sound harsh, but you coming to the realization there isn't anything you can do about your father's issues is something you should view as a positive. best to figure your own shit out first separately than whatever he's going through. we often times think we can solve other people's problems when we can't...it is up to them to solve their own shit...come to their own rescue, so to speak.

best course of action would be for him to talk to a psychologist/psychiatrist...but I know people don't like doing that. especially people in their 70's. I want my own parents to do this and they won't. my mom says she's been like this all her life (she's 74) and won't change at this point, so I just have to deal with it. I think that's bullshit. it is never too late to change. 

Thanks guys, appreciate your insights.

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So disappointed today!
I was gonna go for a job interview..
And I COULD NOT FIND THE GOD DAMN OFFICE! I Was wandering around a park area behind a hotel and the workers there looked I at me like "Are you lost or something?" She said behind the Hotel But what she actually ment was: Inside the Hotel and the entrance is on the back side. 
So fail :facepalm:
I got canceled because of this, but Im gonna go there again on Thursday.. now I know where it is at least. 

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going back to college, it's three weeks before classes start, and just got a call from my landlord that they're terminating my lease

i live in a rent controlled (read: affordable) situation and can't afford to both go back to school and live somewhere else right now

really have no idea what i'm gonna do

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19 minutes ago, luke viia said:

going back to college, it's three weeks before classes start, and just got a call from my landlord that they're terminating my lease

i live in a rent controlled (read: affordable) situation and can't afford to both go back to school and live somewhere else right now

really have no idea what i'm gonna do

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fuck that sucks. can a landlord just do that out of the blue? 

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I just bought a new iPhone and I'm picky how my icons are arranged on my home screen

is it possible for example to have two columns of icons going doing the left and right side of the screen or do they have to be all bunched together? I’d like them to be able to breathe 

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7 minutes ago, ignatius said:

fuck that sucks. can a landlord just do that out of the blue? 

thx man. i'm month to month at this point, and the eviction is related to an old & wacky water supply issue that is likely not 100% legal (on the LL's part) but is also something i have no control over, so the landlord is being forced to basically shut the water off to the premises while they install a well or something legit for the property... which means no tenants for a while. they might let me back after a year or so - they like me as a tenant - but idk, not something i can count on. i like them as landlords too, so i don't want to make a bit legal fight out of it. i dunno what i'd gain from that anyway. this basically all boils down to a certain neighbor being a dick about the situation.

just really wasn't expecting that phone call... took me by surprise. i legally am entitled to 30 days to move at least, but lol at my landlord's rep saying "if you can find something in the next few days let me know." like buddy, pretty clear you haven't had to find a rental in the PNW in the last decade. happy holidays :cat:

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so, 3 different healthcare people, my primary doc, physical therapist, orthopedic specialist, have suggested the diagnosis for my shoulder that it happened as a result of the flu shot i got when the needle went too deep in wrong place and pierced the bursa in the shoulder.  the ortho even wrote a paper about this diagnosis and his colleagues said it was not a thing because there's not enough cases to prove it happens. the physical therapist said that that world just hasn't caught up to reality yet and cases are many even happening to one of his coworkers. when i looked on line there's tons of people w/same issue after getting vaccine done by someone not paying attention or not well trained. 

so, i have to do PT for a while then go back in 3 months to the ortho if needed and if not better by then i can get a steroid injection into my shoulder. doc said it's ironic the possible fix for this is an injection.. but said it's the only thing that will really knock down the inflammation if it's not gone by then. 

still unable to sleep well. been up since about 4am and woke up like 3 or 4 times.. went to bed around 8pm or something.. so tired. this shit blows. 

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15 minutes ago, ignatius said:

so, 3 different healthcare people, my primary doc, physical therapist, orthopedic specialist, have suggested the diagnosis for my shoulder that it happened as a result of the flu shot i got when the needle went too deep in wrong place and pierced the bursa in the shoulder.  the ortho even wrote a paper about this diagnosis and his colleagues said it was not a thing because there's not enough cases to prove it happens. the physical therapist said that that world just hasn't caught up to reality yet and cases are many even happening to one of his coworkers. when i looked on line there's tons of people w/same issue after getting vaccine done by someone not paying attention or not well trained. 

so, i have to do PT for a while then go back in 3 months to the ortho if needed and if not better by then i can get a steroid injection into my shoulder. doc said it's ironic the possible fix for this is an injection.. but said it's the only thing that will really knock down the inflammation if it's not gone by then. 

still unable to sleep well. been up since about 4am and woke up like 3 or 4 times.. went to bed around 8pm or something.. so tired. this shit blows. 

We should just get heroin junkies to inject everyone.

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11 minutes ago, Wunderbar said:

We should just get heroin junkies to inject everyone.

vaccines don't go into the veins though.  

i think the pharmacies/docs should switch from arm and just inject into the ass cheek. 

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13 hours ago, ignatius said:

i think the pharmacies/docs should switch from arm and just inject into the ass cheek. 

I do this every night with your son

12 hours ago, milkface said:

Broke as fuck rn

Cya in the 2nDD world homie 

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apartment hunting suuuucks

just got back from checking out the best lead i had, and turns out that it's A) probably not available anymore even though it isn't even publicly advertised, B) has no laundry access, C) is maybe 220sqft total, D) is directly across the street from an abandoned school with a shit ton of broken windows, a big prison-style fence, and graffiti all over it including the words "cum on me" directly visible from the place i'd be renting. $1000/month

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10 hours ago, Squee said:

Also, everyone is either watching TikTok shit or listening to music on their phone and playing that crap out loud. What is wrong with people?

dude. so at my subsistence level part time job people do this and it's fucking annoying. like 3 people listening on things on their phones and in multiple languages.. then also in multiple languages talking like no one else is around and it doesn't matter because no one understands them etc.. then other people speaking in a different language talk over those people and it's all kind of amazing and i wish i knew what everyone was saying because i'm curious how they'd overlap.. but w/tiktok shit going off in the middle of it it kind of ruins the jazz-like conversation aspect of it for my brain. 

still, the dude playing an imam reading/singing the quran as it's done.. was pretty cool sounding as the guy had a really perfect lyrical voice/quality to it. no idea what was being said of course but it was relaxing especially w/what else was happening around the space i was in. 

edit: my fwp.. car battery keeps dying because i don't drive enough. 

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10 minutes ago, ignatius said:

dude. so at my subsistence level part time job people do this and it's fucking annoying. like 3 people listening on things on their phones and in multiple languages.. then also in multiple languages talking like no one else is around and it doesn't matter because no one understands them etc.. then other people speaking in a different language talk over those people and it's all kind of amazing and i wish i knew what everyone was saying because i'm curious how they'd overlap.. but w/tiktok shit going off in the middle of it it kind of ruins the jazz-like conversation aspect of it for my brain. 

still, the dude playing an imam reading/singing the quran as it's done.. was pretty cool sounding as the guy had a really perfect lyrical voice/quality to it. no idea what was being said of course but it was relaxing especially w/what else was happening around the space i was in. 

That sounds exactly like what I experienced today.
Just add a kid walking around coughing and sneezing everywhere and his mother walking behind him asking, "Where are you going? Where are you going? What do you see?"

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freezing rain them some snow then freezing rain.. so, ice dams in the gutters. spent a few hours in the cold rain on a ladder clearing ice dams in the gutters. there's a covered patio in the back. the person who built the roof over it didn't properly seal it where it meets the siding.. so when the water isn't going where it's supposed to go (the gutters) because of ice dams in the gutters.. it backs up and pours down the siding.. which wouldn't be a problem except for the length of the header attached to the roof that covers the patio. some amount of water got in there and tripped a breaker so a few lights and plugs aren't working in the back of the house which is where my bedroom is. 

i broke up all the ice on the patio roof and cleared the ice dams so the water is going where it's supposed to. the breaker won't reset though. have to wait a while for it to dry out. this means the moisture in the wall is probably causing other problems. there's no leaks into the house anywhere but i imagine there's mold that's gonna happen. Also, need to wait for it to be dry enough for the breaker not to trip. 

so, that means my summer house project $$$$ has emerged and i get to figure out how to seal behind a thing already built.. which means i'll have to take part of it apart, hire someone to do parts of it most likely and i'm annoyed to fuck even thinking about it... also annoyed because i was cold af for a while and on an ice up mostly flat part of the patio roof in the rain and wind shoveling blocks of ice that formed over the gutters and built up under the gutters between the roof and the gutters and my back is tired, i'm tired. i'm annoyed. 

fwp af though.  only one breaker tripped which is good. no other water issues in relation to the gutters. usually if they're blocked the water just spills over onto the ground. 

i could go on but i've said too much. 

merry xmas. 

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I got some kind of food poisoning or stomach bug the day after Christmas and I was pissing shit. 
Today I made curry for dinner realizing I couldn’t handle it after I taste tested it so in the fridge it goes for another day. So I’m eating leftovers but no turkey cause I don’t have any of that left. Mashed potatoes stuffing and corn. Solid. And my stomach is rumbling and dancing around like anything could happen. Keeps me on my toes. 

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It sucks to watch your friends slowly fade out of your everyday life when they get married and have children.

Making plans for one evening is a coordination project that can span several weeks, or even months. There are less and less topics for good discussion, because minds become preoccupied with family/work stuff, and their social circle shrinks around their in-laws. A lot of dubious complaining that always makes you question "Is everything really OK, dude?" only to find the question strange, because that's just how marriages are (or are they?!). And if the spouse somehow joins in, there's this slight tension where they berate each other for more or less silly stuff, make cynical jokes about each other, and try to keep the husbands at a 'safe distance' from their 'scoundrel' friends at the same time. I know where such 'feisty' interpersonal dynamics come from, and it worries me -- for them, and also for me, in a way, because I reflect on my previous relationships and those of my parents and wider family. Everything is slowly falling apart.

It's been a year since I've last seen my best friend and we've become really estranged in a weird way. Other people slowly fade out of my life as well, when mine and theirs perspectives change, or when life gets in the way. I remember some years ago, I'd walk around the city and just stumble upon friends and acquaintances I could greet or grab a coffee/beer with. I'd go out on a friday to a bar without making any meet-up plans, and there would at least be some familiar faces. Now, I don't see a single familiar person ever, anywhere. With everything being more and more globalised, I sometimes feel as if I'm walking around a foreign city. These depressing thoughts have been gnawing my lonely seasonal holidays.

 

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My infant son woke up with conjunctivitis on Xmas day, then ran full pelt into the side of our bed and split his lip wide open. 6 hrs in a&e only for the plastic surgeon to tell us they can't operate as the risk of putting him under general anesthetic while he has conjunctivitis means the infection could spread to his lungs, so we just have to let his horrifically mangled lip heal naturally and hope for the best.

Then we all got covid.

 

Don't have children 

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14 minutes ago, Amen Warrior said:

My infant son woke up with conjunctivitis on Xmas day, then ran full pelt into the side of our bed and split his lip wide open. 6 hrs in a&e only for the plastic surgeon to tell us they can't operate as the risk of putting him under general anesthetic while he has conjunctivitis means the infection could spread to his lungs, so we just have to let his horrifically mangled lip heal naturally and hope for the best.

Then we all got covid.

 

Don't have children 

oh dude. that's a rough series of events. sounds stressful. i hope this time passes quickly and no further damages done

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8 hours ago, cichlisuite said:

It sucks to watch your friends slowly fade out of your everyday life when they get married and have children.

Making plans for one evening is a coordination project that can span several weeks, or even months. There are less and less topics for good discussion, because minds become preoccupied with family/work stuff, and their social circle shrinks around their in-laws. A lot of dubious complaining that always makes you question "Is everything really OK, dude?" only to find the question strange, because that's just how marriages are (or are they?!). And if the spouse somehow joins in, there's this slight tension where they berate each other for more or less silly stuff, make cynical jokes about each other, and try to keep the husbands at a 'safe distance' from their 'scoundrel' friends at the same time. I know where such 'feisty' interpersonal dynamics come from, and it worries me -- for them, and also for me, in a way, because I reflect on my previous relationships and those of my parents and wider family. Everything is slowly falling apart.

It's been a year since I've last seen my best friend and we've become really estranged in a weird way. Other people slowly fade out of my life as well, when mine and theirs perspectives change, or when life gets in the way. I remember some years ago, I'd walk around the city and just stumble upon friends and acquaintances I could greet or grab a coffee/beer with. I'd go out on a friday to a bar without making any meet-up plans, and there would at least be some familiar faces. Now, I don't see a single familiar person ever, anywhere. With everything being more and more globalised, I sometimes feel as if I'm walking around a foreign city. These depressing thoughts have been gnawing my lonely seasonal holidays.

 

The days where I can invite people to anything and they'll turn up within 20 minutes of me sending the message are going to be over soon - making the most of my youth 😞

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