luke viia Posted February 14 Share Posted February 14 i've been trying to cancel my internet service with centurylink for days. their online chat redirects me to endless "specialists" who keep transferring me, i can't use their website to do it (wtf??) and i'm pretty sure they dropped my call after being on hold for an eternity. eventually the phone rang once, then dead silence. it's been ~15 minutes since that happened - i'm still holding on. cant bring myself to go back to the end of the queue and endure the movie announcer voice interrupting the loudest yacht rock bullshit literally every 8 seconds to tell me how easy it is to get support and how much they care about me. and i'm also currently chatting with someone named Armando who is "taking a few minutes to review my account" and has now asked me for my cell phone number. jfc. #boringdystopia oh, okay. the chat man just disconnected it for me. i think. goddamn. these corporations are living nightmares. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ignatius Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 15 hours ago, luke viia said: oh, okay. the chat man just disconnected it for me. i think. goddamn. these corporations are living nightmares. if it's billed to your credit card you can stop that process probably via your bank. and yeah.. they are terrible. usually for internet/cable they have a "suspend service" thing somewhere or "are you moving?" thing you can click on. maybe you can outsmart their protocols? sadly the waiting on hold thing is the modus operandi. i think i waited 4 hours once when i was trying to fix a problem early in pandemic w/my unemployment benefits. but literally the whole state was on hold trying to do the same thing so was understandable. anyway.. good luck! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alcofribas Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 On 2/12/2023 at 2:24 PM, luke viia said: God, I'm such a softy. I honestly feel bad about blowing up on that guy on the phone. I don't want to hurt people, and it's so rare for me to do that kind of thing... when I get legit angry I go straight for the jugular and guilt plagues me for months to years. It's not who I want to be. Ugh, I'm just so sad about losing that place, I really care about it. Being misled was just too much for me I guess. 😞 haha i'm the same way. a few years ago i was riding my bike in the left lane approaching an intersection to make a left turn. some guy was riding me super hard and honking. we get to the intersection and the light is red so he pulls up beside me already yelling so i slapped his side mirror which unexpected exploded into a million pieces, like the whole plastic enclosure and everything. he tried to chase me driving insanely but i easily escaped since i was on a bike but goddamn did i feel really bad about that for a while. just felt like he pushed me and instead of keeping my cool i lost it. admittedly, as a round the year cyclist, i pride myself on not doing this on a nigh daily basis despite the incessant little bitch drivers pestering me. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zephyr_Nova Posted February 15 Share Posted February 15 Both the landlord and side mirror blowup stories are weirdly satisfying to hear about. Assholes get away with being assholes far too often. Probably not a good sign that such anecdotes warm my heart. 💜 💙 ♥️ 💛 💚 💖 💗 💞 (lap top suggested those) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manmower Posted February 20 Share Posted February 20 I've been feeling deeply unhappy lately, worse than I have in a long time. There doesn't seem to be a specific reason why, more like I'm dissatisfied with everything about my life all of a sudden. I'm trying to chill and ride it out but I'm worried that I won't be able to keep it to myself and that I'll say something stupid to the wrong person in real life. I don't think bringing it up here is a great idea either but I'm giving it a shot anyway in case it gives me any sort of relief. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ignatius Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 5 hours ago, manmower said: I've been feeling deeply unhappy lately, worse than I have in a long time. There doesn't seem to be a specific reason why, more like I'm dissatisfied with everything about my life all of a sudden. I'm trying to chill and ride it out but I'm worried that I won't be able to keep it to myself and that I'll say something stupid to the wrong person in real life. I don't think bringing it up here is a great idea either but I'm giving it a shot anyway in case it gives me any sort of relief. do you have a journal? can keep a text file on your puter and empty your head into once in a while. i do that some times and it turns into stories with made up characters and i forget what i was bummed about or whatever. but it's not uncommon to feel that way.. like you're a little raw and if someone scratches you even a tiny bit you're gonna let out all your thoughts on all the things to them in the line at the grocery store. reading a good book helps me. reading about a good plot with good characters occupies my brain and i stop thinking baout my own shit.. or i disconnect from the issues/problem and step back and pretend i'm someone else examining it from the outside then i try to be objective and wonder what it is exactly i'm feeling bummed about or disappointed etc. ^^^^ even writing that all out feels a little weird but we're only human and we're all dealing with varying amounts of stuff that's relative to us. you're probably stronger than you think but doesn't mean some non-judgemental person won't be receptive to your woes/venting one day.. ya just never know who that person is.. also, there's nothing wrong w/spilling the beans.. i've done it with a friend i was super close to at the time and she and I each bared all our business in these long form text chats over periods of months. there was phone sex at some point so it was a good round trip or something. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manmower Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 Thanks man, that was a pretty awesome reply, I have zero regrets about making the previous post now. It seems so obvious that the planet is teeming with people who can relate but it's nice to hear from one of them. I've been resisting "examining" it, and now I'm wondering if that's because I know deep down it's something stupid and ugly like jealousy driving all of this. Even though intellectually I know what others do or have would never work for me. Maybe I just need to face it and get over it instead of being so careful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zero Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 2 hours ago, manmower said: I've been resisting "examining" it, and now I'm wondering if that's because I know deep down it's something stupid and ugly like jealousy driving all of this. mental deep diving to get to the root cause of it, is the only way you'll gain insight into whatever it is that is bothering you. and through insight is how you will solve the "problem." this is one of the benefits of having consciousness. humans have the ability to reverse engineer their emotions. avoiding facing it only drags out the unhappiness/negative state. and yeah, chances are your unhappiness is based on something that is out of your control any way....the fuckin key to life is happiness man. it's really that simple. exercise, eat right, meditate, avoid negative people. and listen to a shit load of music. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diatoms Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 24 minutes ago, zero said: mental deep diving to get to the root cause of it, is the only way you'll gain insight into whatever it is that is bothering you. and through insight is how you will solve the "problem." this is one of the benefits of having consciousness. humans have the ability to reverse engineer their emotions. avoiding facing it only drags out the unhappiness/negative state. and yeah, chances are your unhappiness is based on something that is out of your control any way....the fuckin key to life is happiness man. it's really that simple. exercise, eat right, meditate, avoid negative people. and listen to a shit load of music. really like this:) 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 21 Share Posted February 21 (edited) wtf is jealousy anyway? of course starving people want food from other people... is that jealousy? are they jealous because they don't want to starve? am I jealous of you that do good music just because I want to make good music? the fuck I am, I want to make good music, I don't wanna be you... even if you didn't exist I'd love to be able to make good music... what I feel is frustration, and that's something of mine that I need to take care of... solution: I stopped trying... and now I have way more fun when listening to music... it was unbearable listening to music and always trying to take it apart and know how it was done, took all the fun out of it... take that Christian bulshit out of your brain... edit: I definetly sound dumband crass saying shit like this so just get some salt and enlighten me pls... Edited February 21 by cruising for burgers 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 https://www.mindbloom.com/ Quote At-home ketamine therapy with amazing outcomes. Suicide is a leading cause of death for Americans between the ages of 20 and 60. Mindbloom can bring hope to those who’ve lived with thoughts of self-harm and suicide. yeah I'm as surprised as you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 @manmower my man, do u have sleep/sensory deprivation tanks over there in Belgium? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luke viia Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 1 hour ago, cruising for burgers said: https://www.mindbloom.com/ yeah I'm as surprised as you... this is cool and K is my fav and hugely helpful for depression/anxiety -- that said, I just answered 10,000 questions and eventually ended at a page telling me I could get their introductory program for three payments of $386 USD. cool. street is a way better dealer and the k hole frequency is my call. me and music for airports will be chillin in the dark while in this shit takes off but it's a good start, i appreciate michael pollan and the other boomers making this happen 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manmower Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 14 hours ago, cruising for burgers said: @manmower my man, do u have sleep/sensory deprivation tanks over there in Belgium? Sure, I don't know about sleep (?) but those flotation tanks are a thing here, no idea how common though. I've always mentally filed them in the same department as sauna, pedicure, wellness center type stuff, perhaps wrongly. I've been trying to do some more, let's say, critical self-examination (thanks @zero by the way) and it does seem to be helping. Although admittedly I am also taking a fair bit of 5-HTP now to make it all a little easier. The jealousy thing, I don't know if jealousy or envy is the better word for it. But I've been doing well for years when it comes to not comparing myself to others. And now all of a sudden it's like this chain reaction where I slipped and stopped loving myself and next thing I know I'm almost wishing bad on others. It's so obviously stupid when I try to look at it somewhat objectively, but at the same time it can become a vicious circle real quick. I also caught covid recently, finally if you will after three years of pandemic. And the though has crossed my mind that I'm going through some sort of (post-)viral thing. Either way thinking about my current state of mind in terms of "catching a virus" seems helpful in itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 btw, there's no such thing as pure altruism... in the end, we always do it for our own good, we help someone in need because it makes us feel good... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alcofribas Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 i work in a restaurant. it's a japanese restaurant, owned by a japanese guy, and most of my coworkers are from japan. it's a good gig, good pay and bc it is a traditional japanese fine dining spot in the midwest, it's kind of cut off from industry bullshit. it's a hidden gem, it's got it's own thing going on. but we have this guy who works there, this clownish white boy, who has become the "beverage director" and he just brings so much of the corny, status quo industry bullshit to the job: he's exceedingly vain, cartoonishly pretentious, he acts like he's the boss and talks down to people and behaves in a way that is very cliche annoying boss type behavior. i mean, he has been telling people he is "the manager" of the bar, although...he simply is not the manager (lmao). he tells people this to look superior to the staff (he refers to his coworkers as "his staff") bc he thinks being "the manager" makes him look cool and powerful. he's the kind of guy who will bring a literal armful of books to work, just so people will see them and think he's really smart. one time he was even just carrying a Marx book around jfc. just a total wanker, a poseur, totally inauthentic. this is a new style of a very typical guy - he pretends to be sensitive and not like the other guys, but the second he gets a title at a job he's acting like a little tyrant and saying he "runs" the joint, totally taking credit for all the hard work everyone else does, and generally be an all around little bitch. the actual manager of the place is also a smug, pretentious white boy. an upper west side "i'm from new york" guy who relaxes by watching criterion channel new wave films while wearing $300 selvedge jeans. let me be clear, these guys are super lame. totally unimpressive. the beverage director is basically a bimbo, and the manager is just a low hanging bougie guy who doesn't realize he's basically a breathing statistic from a pierre bourdieu study. anyway, i rarely encounter the manager bc he's neglectful and unimportant to the service which is run by us workers along side the owner. but the beverage director is always around, saying embarrassing shit, talking down to the staff, telling 21 year old women he's the manager, using big words he mispronounces bc he's a jackass (he recently described himself as an "incorrigible rastabout [sic!]", etc. and since he's so self-obsessed, he's naturally not doing his share of the job. and wouldn't you know, the "i'm from new york" manager constantly makes excuses for him and refuses to ever lift a finger to help us out with this guy. so the experience is like our mom married a guy with a kid and he's like the terrible step son who the father refuses to ever chastise and who instead blames us for not being nice enough to his beautiful boy. and goddamn this is some pathetic shit. we're all an older crew for the most part (most of us are in our 40s) and these two numbskulls are 29-30 and every time i encounter them it's just full danny glover i'm too old for this shit mode. like, being a pretentious guy who is into wine is so corny and plaid out, why must i be around some kid who thinks this makes him special and important? dude is literally just using adjectives and comparing alcohol to other drinks and food items. he thinks he's some kind of genius for this. just absolute smallest dick energy possible - cosplaying as a manager in 2023 my god man this is sad. then he's all #ally on his social media and shit. i feel like i'm working with richy rich or frances from pee-wee's big adventure or smth. so yeah man, i'm just trying to come into work, crush my shift, be chill and vibe with my japanese crew. eliminate these psuedo PMC dipshits please! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zero Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 1 hour ago, Alcofribas said: one time he was even just carrying a Marx book around jfc. lmao. are there any non-pretentious wannabe commies out there? hahaha hey that should be your play somehow. use the magical power of Karl against him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alcofribas Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 3 hours ago, zero said: lmao. are there any non-pretentious wannabe commies out there? hahaha hey that should be your play somehow. use the magical power of Karl against him. Just the thought of someone specifically carrying a Marx book to signal that he’s smart and cool, then turning around and pretending to be a manager bc he covets the prestige. Stunning buffoonery! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 @AlcofribasI think u mean Master Sommelier 😂 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
usagi Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 7 hours ago, Alcofribas said: "incorrigible rastabout [sic!]" lol I'd start doing (bad) patois at him with no explanation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alcofribas Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 (edited) 1 hour ago, cruising for burgers said: @AlcofribasI think u mean Master Sommelier 😂 Brother, he isn’t even a sommelier lmao this might ruffle some feathers, maybe it’s my most controversial take that will alienate me from watmm, but fuck sommeliers 8 minutes ago, usagi said: lol I'd start doing (bad) patois at him with no explanation. Just gonna do watmm jokes at him Edited February 24 by Alcofribas 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J3FF3R00 Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 (edited) On 2/22/2023 at 8:52 PM, luke viia said: this is cool and K is my fav I’ve never done K and was always super curious about the experience but never really wanted to try it because the “k-hole” always sounded a bit scary to me. What is K like and how does it compare to other drugs if at all? Edited February 24 by J3FF3R00 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 24 Share Posted February 24 (edited) 58 minutes ago, Alcofribas said: fuck sommeliers yeah I don't work closely with them over here but the few I've known are pompous twats... Edited February 24 by cruising for burgers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted February 25 Share Posted February 25 (edited) I think I must have done something really wrong on my previous life or even on this one cause my karma keeps fucking me up... it's little things but if putting it all together it weights considerably... I keep having situations like, for example, a lot of people where I work don't comply to standard rules (hairstyle and grooming) and I mostly do but yesterday the captain saw me on the elevator and told me that I needed to trim my beard... and I immediately think, fuck, why me... it's not just me... one day I was looking at my phone on a place where we should not but nobody really cares so everybody uses it, but me, by chance, crossed ways with a security and she told me I cannot use the phone there... immediately I thought, what about the other 100 persons who also do it? I've learned the hard way not to get conflictuous on these situations so I'm always basically 'yes sir' 'yes ma'am'...but these are just 2 examples... I go trough stuff like this almost on a daily basis... I work with people who don't give a flying fuck about anything like completely clueless about these things but they never get in trouble... I get to the point where I can't even decide what to do because there's always pros and cons on my mind... this is nothing new I just decided to share it now because (as a non native English speaker) it's not easy for me to explain this stuff without something being lost in translation and also when I read what I wrote I sound like a dumb fuck... my first sentence about karma is just a figure of speech, I don't believe in karma, or do I? maybe there's something else out there but I guess karma is the best word to describe how I look at it... or bad luck? is there such a thing? Edited February 25 by cruising for burgers Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wunderbar Posted February 25 Share Posted February 25 18 minutes ago, cruising for burgers said: I think I must have done something really wrong on my previous life or even on this one cause my karma keeps fucking me up... it's little things but if putting it all together it weights considerably... I keep having situations like, for example, a lot of people where I work don't comply to standard rules (hairstyle and grooming) and I mostly do but yesterday the captain saw me on the elevator and told me that I needed to trim my beard... and I immediately think, fuck, why me... it's not just me... one day I was looking at my phone on a place where we should not but nobody really cares so everybody uses it, but me, by chance, crossed ways with a security and she told me I cannot use the phone there... immediately I thought, what about the other 100 persons who also do it? I've learned the hard way not to get conflictuous on these situations so I'm always basically 'yes sir' 'yes ma'am'...but these are just 2 examples... I go trough stuff like this almost on a daily basis... I work with people who don't give a flying fuck about anything like completely clueless about these things but they never get in trouble... I get to the point where I can't even decide what to do because there's always pros and cons on my mind... this is nothing new I just decided to share it now because (as a non native English speaker) it's not easy for me to explain this stuff without something being lost in translation and also when I read what I wrote I sound like a dumb fuck... my first sentence about karma is just a figure of speech, I don't believe in karma, or do I? maybe there's something else out there but I guess karma is the best word to describe how I look at it... or bad luck? is there such a thing? You should rally the mentally challenged and take over the place. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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