Adieu

Yeah, sorry for the thread jacking bullshit. Carry on.

I watched Walkabout and The Idiot (although I fell asleep during the second part). They were both Okay. The Idiot is Akira Kurosawa's adaptation of the book The Idiot by Dostoyevsky. The Walkabout has a lot of nudity. I think it is really interesting how it seems like there was a period where nudity wasn't really a big deal in cinema. It ends up showing a young girl (I couldn't tell if she was of age, but she seems to be borderline) and a young boy both completely nude at one point. It is done very tastefully, but I feel if you showed a young boy naked these days that you would get a lot of backlash.

*somehow* i knew you would actually say that 'she has a right to lie'. in most cases it isn't against the law so i guess you could take it to mean you have 'the right' to do it. so depending on how you define 'right' i could actually agree with you, but that's not the point here and it's just a shitty way to look at it. the fact that you would even say that, to me, does indicate that in some small way you are trying to rationalize it. instead of saying 'lying to someone who trusts you is wrong' you choose to say 'they have a right to lie to you' which just absolutely and entirely is not the point. you basically told him to be happy with getting her back even if she is lying to him/hiding things, just don't ask about it because what he doesn't know won't hurt him (until it does). excuse me for thinking that's a bit telling. i also think so many people having that type of mentality is why so many other people in the world are suffering emotionally, but whatever. As if something being against the law is an good indicator of it being morally right or wrong. Rationalize what exactly? A bit telling of what exactly? Are you really using my advice to make parallels to the emotional suffering of the entire world? In eight sentences even. I think that you going out of your way to use my advice to make attacks against me makes you a douche bag. you basically told him to be happy with getting her back even if she is lying to him/hiding things, just don't ask about it because what he doesn't know won't hurt him (until it does). Actually, I was saying given the somewhat casual nature of their relationship, based on the amount of time that has passed during their being together, that it might be best to let it go and not make a big thing of whatever it was that caused her to be so aloof. Finding out things like this (if this scenario is in fact what is going on) can be really hard to process emotionally, but in the end they are sometimes irrelevant to the situation as a whole. These situations can cause resentment in your heart that is very difficult to process for a lot of people. Being silent about something isn't necessary lying or hiding unless you have an obligation to that person. Once again barring more pertinent information being shared I don't believe she has an obligation to tell him everything at this point in their relationship. Now if he were to ask about it specifically because it is bothering him then yes the moral thing to do would be to be honest. The thing is a lot of people's first instinct is to preserve the thing that they want rather than risk it being ruined because of something they feel in their heart to be irrelevant. This unfortunately tends to cause a lot of people to lie. If you haven't noticed I haven't stated that I think this is morally right. Just that it is something I've observed in human beings, so I don't understand why you are saying I'm trying to "rationalize" it. Identifying and attempting to understand something does not mean you agree with it or promote it. "Until it does" is predicting the future which I try to avoid thinking I can do. Is there a possibility that something related to this situation will hurt him down the road? Sure. Is it a given? No. Firstly, I would like to state that in basically every situation ever regarding a girl, being "cool" about something is the easiest way to gain their attention, admiration, and curiosity. (although I do suggest being jealous when warranted in a serious relationship) Mr. E thinks that this would make you look like a pushover and pussy. (my words) I disagree, because every other dude that she has dated who is in fact a emotional bitch has probably made a big deal over things of this nature, which then leads to conflict, and causes a breakdown in the relationship. This just furthers the cycle of her wanting to look around somewhere else for a stable relationship. I think that the ballsy thing to do is to pretend you don't give a shit even if you do and then show her that you are secure in yourself and are not dependent on her to be happy. To say that this gives her a "free pass" to do whatever she likes and you will be okay with it is not true. If this is regular behavior for her then the relationship isn't going to work anyway. Pick your battles as they say. If you believe that her seeing someone else in this nature is a deal breaker then do yourself a favor and break it off entirely. Good luck though.

I've been playing Mech Warrior Online a bit. It is free to play.

This jacket is so sick. I hope it becomes a trend that people start wearing clothing that become light sources. http://www.bless-service.de/BLESS_new/News.html

If you are saying I condone her lying I never said anything close to that. If you are saying she doesn't have the right as a human being to lie if she wants to then you are wrong. All the rest I don't really give a shit about. If you want to give advice to this guy by all means go ahead. Also, "still kind of" read under certain circumstances. It is amazing how you seem to always miss these things.

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You need to get out more my man. Also, OKC is lame. Get off their and go out more often and talk to girls.

I've never had a girl ask me that, but I'm sure the more regular ones are thinking it. It is just annoying to me that people ask it. It is really none of your business, and why the fuck is it even relevant? You're the asshole who came and started talking to me during my dinner. If I had a beard, was larger, or more overtly masculine I guarantee it wouldn't happen. What is most annoying is that it is so impolite to even ask that question. It shows a complete lack of culture and manners. I was at a strip club one time and my buddy got asked by another dude if I was gay even after I got a lap dance. It is outstanding to me. I feel like it is just these dudes having trouble processing the fact that they are attracted to me or something. Stupid fucking Americans man...

I was eating dinner at a steakhouse. I ended up sitting at the bar, because they were so busy. After a moment a guy came up and leaned between me and the next person to order a drink. He was mid-fifties with a five o'clock shadow. He had a worn look about him like he worked a blue collar job his entire life, and he was average both in dress and appearance. I was ok with his presence until he decided to stay and chat me up after receiving his beverage. He seemed a little drunk but I humored him figuring he was just being social. After a while it was bugging me that he was interrupting me as I was trying to eat dinner. He then proceeded to sit down and continue to talk when the person next to me left. It became more and more apparent that he was plastered, his speech was slurred and his sentences trailed off into a mumble. He prodded me with annoying and awkward questions, and as each new drink slid in front of him, his brain turned more into mush. He began asking the same set of questions over and over forgetting he had asked them as soon as they were answered. Sometimes his sentences made no sense at all and I just smiled and nodded secretly hoping he would leave. He remarked at my being good looking and I graciously replied, "thank you". At one point he stopped a woman walking and said, "Hey", and she replied slightly bewildered, "Hello". Later, he put out his hand for me to shake and I extended my hand, but before I could fully grasp it he squeezed uncomfortably as if to challenge me. Sensing aggression I quickly told him he needed to let go. I forgot to mention that at some point he asked me if I am gay. I answered, "no", being rather used to normal people thinking this about me, it didn't phase me much. He had been bothering me so long at this point I wasn't even looking at him but he kept talking and trying to get my attention. Around the thirtieth round of asking the same questions again he more aggressively began asking me repeatedly, "Are you gay? You're gay. Are you gay?". Furious at this point I turned to him and said with my most stern voice, " You need to fuck off!". My hands were shaking from the adrenaline coursing through my veins; My body remembering that feeling moments before a fight when you know that you are going to be forced to defend yourself. He put some distance between us and slid down the bar. I felt relieved that he would no longer be imposing on my dinner and also that I wasn't going to have to fight. To my utter amazement he forgot that it even happened. He slid back over and the same questions began again. He was so obliterated that he forgot that tense moment from just minutes ago. I wasn't even acknowledging his existence anymore. Fortunately, he finished his drink, called a cab, and eventually left. I was almost finished with my steak at this point my dinner basically ruined. All I was left with was a bloody hunk of flesh and the lingering thought of whether he was trying to pick me up or just a clueless, drunk, fool.

Most likely she was seeing someone else during that period. I hate to break it to you. Although, with the short period of time you have been dating she still kind of has every right to. In my opinion, don't ask because you don't want to hear the answer and it's likely she'll be inclined to lie to you, which will only hurt you more when you find out the truth. I think you should just be happy that things are back the way you want them, because if you make a fuss of it you might scare her off.

I think that is floating around the Aphex subforum. I play my Tuss vinyl at 33 rpm now just for kicks.

That Pet Cemetary scene fucked me up for a few years when I first saw it. Gross...

Well, usually the only reason I buy a certain brand is because the clothes fit me well and the style is agreeable. If you don't need clothes there is really no reason to buy them. I usually only buy stuff when I need it.

Well, tailoring like one item isn't going to be so bad, but in general you want to buy clothes that fit properly. Part of that is being in decent shape. Generally designer clothes are better fitting in my experience than regular clothes, but it all has to do with what you want to look like. Usually the key is to buy certain items that might be a little expensive and then fill in your wardrobe with less expensive items. I'm about to get this nice jacket I bought tailored because it is too big for me now. I'm hoping that it isn't too pricey.

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HOLY LOL!

holy crap this is going to haunt me.

I just don't think that is a possibility.

ha...Yeah, I've seen really good copies of Django and the Hobbit recently as well as Jack Reacher, Seven Psychopaths, and Total Recall.

Why is there honey in your bathroom? I found an epilator in the closet as a kid and plugged it in then touched it to my arm. I never touched it again after that.

Dota 2 is better and harder.

Not sure if best to follow Jules advice

Dude, you are in your late twenties. If you can't trust your instincts at this point then you've wasted 20+ years living. If you love her go for it. Life is wayyyyy too short to be cautious about happiness. Even if it ends poorly it would have been much better to spend the time with her you enjoyed than not ever have that time together at all. Oh fucking well if it doesn't work out. Then you move back to your country and start over.