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1-36 You've always been one of my favourite WATMMERS and I first saw your true (well internet based) self, in the pub roleplay thread. I hate to sound judgemental and seem like a "know-it-all" but there were a couple of times in that thread, the way you worded some things and the nature of their order that I honestly thought you might be gay. That may be because I have some very close gay friends, lesbian and male and their lingo genuinely is slightly different. I am not saying every gay person speaks differently to non gay people by the way, this is just my experience.

 

Fair play for coming out mate and I wish the best of luck to you and your wife, kudos to her post on here also. Honesty is very hard to express sometimes, especially on an emotional basis such as this, excuse the pun, but it takes a gigantic pair of balls to come clean.

 

As someone who has shown me support over this forum for my time here, I'll just say you know where my inbox is.

I have noticed linguistic usage variances between hetero and homosexual people, it probably has to do with the brain being wired slightly differently. I remember my wife telling me about a class she took in college where they compared MRIs of both the brain of a heterosexual and a homosexual, and while the percentage was the same, the homosexual brain used a more balanced amount of both sides of the brain, where the hetero brain leaned heavily on one side.

 

I wouldn't call it brave to tell a forum that doesn't use real names. It might be to do so on

facebook, but for petty reasons I am not doing that.

 

 

Edit: and thanks, georgie, as always you're a peach.

 

I was referring to you coming clean to your wife mate, that's the hardest part of all :-)!

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By the way, here are a couple of posts 24 hours prior to this thread that may make you feel slightly better:

 

My family are actually Welsh, my Nan is from LLaneli. I am half Welsh.

 

I feel like I've just come out.

 

just noticed that m u st co n t r ol t h o 4 was banned. anyone know why?

 

i miss him already, this place needs more queers.

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good for you! and I think it´s great that you told her, face to face.

There´s really nothing you can do if someone you love just has a different sexual interest...and if the other person is somewhat decent, they´ll understand. The way your wife reacted it looks like you did a good thing, after all.

 

Also, there´s a whole new sexual experience out there for you, the first girl I had sex with turned out to be a lesbian (she didnt tell me when she dumped me, found out years later that she apparently came out) and it´s just not the same if you don´t share the same interest ;)

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Dude . . . probably one of the toughest things a person could face is what you've just done (besides, I think, facing the death of a loved one . . . or oneself). It takes a lot of courage to be honest with yourself, with the ones you love, especially when you know the revelation will be devastating. But, you can't be truly loving if you can't be honest, so congrats on having the balls to do the right thing. Some folks go to the grave having lived the lie, and the ways that lie manifests are more terrible by far than the direct, honest revealing of the truth, no matter how terrifying and terrible it is in the moment.

 

Things will probably be very tough for a while, but you've basically taken the first step on living a freer, more genuine life, as yourself, not as the mask of yourself. Best of luck to you and the missus - and, again, what you've done is show incredible strength and maturity where it would be much easier to run away and hide. Be well!

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lol slight diversion but I love how all the subforum acts pretend like they have no idea what watmm is but still understand it to be filled with jaded, hard to please homophobes. I can understand it to be weird to have a group of random people talking about you... but come on.

 

i think the attitude problem (not in any specific case, because i can't say that i speak for anyone), came about due to the general snobbyness that came from other msgboards and electronic music communities towards watmm, a while back. They'd hide their superiority complex by making up stories about us all being mean spirited, or dim witted or whatever other ignorant and uncharitable things that they could come up with were. The problem with all this was that we were pretty much like them. A bunch of mates having a chat.

 

Perhaps also, was the fact that we liked fruityloops. Man that's sure a reason to start hating a large chunk of decent folks isn't it !!

 

Anyway, due to some of the less charitable members of other communities continually ragging on joyrex.com and then watmm. The idea seemed to stick in the minds of many, whom probably knew little of the place and what they did know or bothered to check was then coloured by this electronic music board racism.

 

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We kind of get the last laugh though, as every other place seems to have died off. Well it's not that funny, more the merrier for electronic music methinks.

 

eneewae, perhaps that is why cylob said what he did, due to a misunderstanding. As i'd hate to think that he was a snobby twat.

 

;-]

 

g'niet....

 

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Also, lol at dimestore diagnosis, OTTS. Welcome to my tired mind. They again said that they'd change my shifts around at work. It remains to be seen whether this actually happens. glarg

 

so wait, Cylob is gay? That would explain his garish album covers...

 

hah !!

 

What about ceephax's jumpers.

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This has been surprising. Thanks everyone except The Pod, I'll be here if I get suicidal again.

 

I haven't read the last couple pages, but here is a question for you - you might have already answered it: since when do you know you're gay ?

I'm asking this because I don't really feel attracted to girls. ANd when I'm, it's merely a platonic love.

I never wanked to gay porn though.

Am I gay ?

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Things will probably be very tough for a while, but you've basically taken the first step on living a freer, more genuine life, as yourself, not as the mask of yourself.

I don't think this can emphasised enough. Whites will be whiter, brights will be brighter, sex will actually be sexy.

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This has been surprising. Thanks everyone except The Pod, I'll be here if I get suicidal again.

 

Hey, just found this thread, and wanted to chip in with the collective congrats. I hope you and the wife are much happier going forward (I imagine that'll be the case!), and I applaud you for having the balls to be true to yourself.

 

PS I am bi as fuck

except for the part where the guy looks and smells like a guy, not really into that

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but the dress would be removed at some point and then it would just be a Frenchman wearing ladies perfume. or does he have to keep the dress on?

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This has been surprising. Thanks everyone except The Pod, I'll be here if I get suicidal again.

 

Hey, just found this thread, and wanted to chip in with the collective congrats. I hope you and the wife are much happier going forward (I imagine that'll be the case!), and I applaud you for having the balls to be true to yourself.

 

PS I am bi as fuck

except for the part where the guy looks and smells like a guy, not really into that

 

So ladyboys it is then.

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I have hijacked my husbands identity to say some things. I figure he is in no position to complain. First thank you to those of you who have expressed concern and support. I appreciate you helping him in this difficult time. For the snot nosed little bastard who asked if I am a homophobe the answer would be no. I am the person who taught him it is more important to think for yourself than to listen to what other people think. And while it might be bitting me in the ass right now I still believe it is true. I made solemn vows to love, honor, and comfort this person and I am doing it the best I can. I can't hide the entirety of my grief from him but I am trying to minimize the damage my pain causes him and everyone who thought we were happy. I know I'm not a part of your group but I have lived on its fringes for years now and I know you are often flippant about peoples feelings, I just wanted to say thank you for not abandoning him and for your genuine good will.

 

Thanks for sharing your intimate feelings on this deeply personal crisis with us strangers on the internet.

One To Thirty Six's wife's presence on this thread is proof that this is all a bullshit hoax, and anyone who doesn't see that is a fool.

 

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