dumplings Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 Well, I'm getting married in a couple months time and I'm getting pretty stressed out in regards to the stag do. Me and the (soon to be) missus have been organising the whole wedding day ourselves and the cost is out of our pocket. Albeit, it is a small occasion with a smattering of friends and largely immediate family, it's been quite an absorbing affair to plan for. Anyway, I've never been on a stag do myself; I don't drink, take drugs etc. Which may well be the case of my choosing to write the one for me, off. However, I get it in the ear from the guys at work constantly which is what irks me somewhat. I'm a carpenter by trade and I work with a bunch of hairy-arsed-builders. I like the guys and have plenty of fun whilst at work but I don't follow their 'ladlike' behaviour in any sense. It's like I'm a different person being at work with them because when I come home, I'm a quiet, sensible, laid back person. They want to take me abroad somewhere in the Balkans and get smashed etc etc. Meh. Is it weird that I'd much prefer a more quiet affair with some close friends; an activity day, lots of food. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chenGOD Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 Not weird at all. And you should be spending it with close friends, not work mates (unless they happen to intersect). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Squee Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 Is it weird that I'd much prefer a more quiet affair with some close friends; an activity day, lots of food. No. Do whatever floats your boat. It's your bachelor party so it sould be all about what you like doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rixxx Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 do whatever you want/feels right- theres too much pressure on people toA) get marriedB)spend a fortune getting marriedC) having some elaborate all weekender hen/stagthe whole thing is bullshit.I get went out for a booze up with my mates (mostly female but some LADS)(finished the night falling asleep with my head in the loo after vomiting everywhere)the man wanted a chilled out night, something akin to Kath and Kim's Kel whcih of course isnt on Utube. he goes to a nice restaurant. Its finnneee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cruising for burgers Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 you're such a square dude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soloman Tump Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 For my stag weekend we hired a cottage in the Peak District and intended to do some nice walks and such. The first evening we had over 2' of snow and had to get a local farmer to dig our cars out in the end. No walking was done all weekend, but we did get really drunk, ate loads of food, and thankfully my best man brought his turntables so we basically had a lock in for 2 days. I didn't sleep much and have plenty of find memories. TL;Dr Do whatever you want, it's your weekend. When you're married you won't be able to! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rixxx Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 *if you cant do whatever you want* after marriage than dont get married.If you want to fuck about, be single or in consensual polyamorous relationship. If you cant go out because you are married or in a relationship than you need to see that you are in a controlling/controlled relationship which isnt healthy.sorry but that statement pisses me off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YO303 Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 Born to smart to be one of the lads, born too dumb to be one of the intellectuals Welcome to the average club Don't let the orangutans you work with ruin your big day, stay at home, read a book and play chess, your fiance will probably go to a strip club and realise that all she ever wanted was Adonis Also why are you getting married if you hate festivity and fun ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BCM Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 i got married last august. didn't have a stag do and didn't want one... few people seemed a bit disappointed but they soon got over it... don't let anyone pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable with and remember your wedding is about you and your wife to be and nobody else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BCM Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 also me and my wife had such an amazing time at our wedding that nothing else was needed! don't listen to any of that "last night of freedom crap" or get carted off to amsterdam for a 3 day bender (unless you really want to). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rixxx Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 1000% What BCM says Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soloman Tump Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 *if you cant do whatever you want* after marriage than dont get married. If you want to fuck about, be single or in consensual polyamorous relationship. If you cant go out because you are married or in a relationship than you need to see that you are in a controlling/controlled relationship which isnt healthy. sorry but that statement pisses me off. Sorry, was kinda meant as a joke but in hindsight it wasn't that funny. Hope the marriage goes well! It's my 3rd wedding anniversary on Wednesday. It's flown by. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dumplings Posted April 24, 2016 Author Share Posted April 24, 2016 Thanks for the all the replies! I thought I was alone in thinking different to that of a typical lads stag do was the way to do it and I understand I'm not bound to people's opinions of what I do, just nice to get some level headed responses for a change. I don't want to come across like I'm looking down on people that do like that type of thing either, it just doesn't float for me is all. I think I'm just akin to that of an old codger when it comes to things like this and I'm mostly fine with that Also; we wanted a small, intimate wedding with close family on the day but my uncle partially leaked the info and it snowballed from there. Luckily we've rounded it down to a doable number where most of the people we see regularly, are the ones that are there on the day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BCM Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 also, congratulations btw! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dumplings Posted April 25, 2016 Author Share Posted April 25, 2016 also, congratulations btw! Cheers BCM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
usagi Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 Anyway, I've never been on a stag do myself; I don't drink, take drugs etc. Which may well be the case of my choosing to write the one for me, off. However, I get it in the ear from the guys at work constantly which is what irks me somewhat. fuck them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chim Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 Are you sure you want to marry a woman? Congratulations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
usagi Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 women are quite good. I recommend them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AAAAh Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 why dont you and your friends have that interracial midget gangbang you've always dreamed of? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QQQ Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 my best man brought his turntables so we basically had a lock in for 2 days. I didn't sleep much and have plenty of find memories. this sounds like an awesome way to spend a weekend, think i'll do something similar if i ever get married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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