tokn Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Well. I would be interested what types of romantic relationships you are in or you prefer. Especially the men here, but wait, there are only men here, right? Anyway I'm in the situation that I've been together with a girl for a quite long time, at least for me, that would be almost three years. Of course, in this period I got to know her very well and physically there is not much surprise anymore. Although she's goddamned good in certain things you do in bed, I know how exciting it is to get to know an unknown woman and sleep with here. That feeling, there is no way, we can go back to it. That's the way it goes, I guess. Anyway I really love this woman. Of course I do flirt with different women and look at them and stuff, but I could never imagine going further. My girlfriend noticed this and wrote me a long letter, being very afraid of loosing me and not being able to satisfy me any more In general, this is quite a difficult topic. Because: She's right on the one hand. She is standing in my way, by me knowing I would loose her, if I fuck around. That way I could learn much more than by staying at her side. But on the other hand it's a beautiful feeling, cause it shows me, how much I really love her. And how less sexual attraction has to do with love in the end. So I would like to have a little advice and your comment on the idea of a monogamic romantic relationship, like most of us probably are heading for. Are there good alternatives without hurting the one or other person? How I can I manage to fuck around while not upsetting my girlfriend ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silent Member Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Let me help you: How can your girlfriend fuck around while not upsetting you? When you have the answer to that you will know the secret. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psn Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Alternatives? Monogamy Bigamy Trigonometry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azatoth Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Polyamory. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest couch Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Your first question: I don't restrict myself to monogamous relationships. Usually I only have one girlfriend at a time anyways. When it comes to time management it's much less stressful. I've had two overlapping ones before. It left very little time for my own hobbies and friends, which got me depressed. Since then any additional women I've kept it just as hook ups. Usually they end up becoming friends, gig buddies or drinking buddies. I tried astronomy once though, it was way over my head. Your last question about alternatives that won't hurt your current relationship? I dunno man? Going by what you said it seems like she wouldn't be accepting of an open relationship if that's what you are implying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patternoverlap Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 If you want to fuck around with other women then you don't want to be in a long-term relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
essines Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 If you want to fuck around with other women then you don't want to be in a long-term relationship. truthbullets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BCM Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 how old are you tokn? if you're like 21 or something then don't worry about anything and do whatever the hell you like... if you're 31 then maybe you're with the wrong woman. (null) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marf Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 men cheat. that's what girls think. I can't get one girl let alone multiple women. so, i don't understand this reality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patternoverlap Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Women think men cheat because a lot of them do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marf Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 you have to date a swinger. I know a swinger couple. They fuck whoever as long as they are honest about it with each other. Its like some swinger code or something. They have a kid and everything. you have to be ok with your girl fucking someone else though. The guy likes seeing his wife get fucked too. ( I think it's unhealthy, but hey. I can't get shit so what do I know) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sneaksta303 Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 I'm in a serious long term relationship. I've never cheated on her, but we've both "shared" on a few occasions, with another couple, 4-some style. It's great, and luckily, not weird at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azatoth Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 I'm in a serious long term relationship. I've never cheated on her, but we've both "shared" on a few occasions, with another couple, 4-some style. It's great, and luckily, not weird at all. Did dicks touch? If they did, you're gay, son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sneaksta303 Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 what if i just like, fuck his ass or something? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaarg Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Let me help you: How can your girlfriend fuck around while not upsetting you? When you have the answer to that you will know the secret. This is a great answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azatoth Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 what if i just like, fuck his ass or something? Not gay, only if dicks touch, or you're the catcher. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fred McGriff Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 Here's the tip of a penis, and as you can see, it's bumping into a nice... side of a penis. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoodie Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 monogamy isn't for some people & polyamory isn't for some people. moral of the story: date someone that is in the same group as you. less drama that way. what if i just like, fuck his ass or something? Not gay, only if dicks touch, or you're the catcher. this is an interesting point. some people would only engage in homosexual behavior in the context of group sex. why is that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Drahken Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 I've been married 5 years and we've been going out with other women together for a couple years now. Communication is key, as is having a solid relationship, but its not entirely unheard of. In our case we get our kicks working as a team and playing off each other so its a mutually satisfactory situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TwiddleBot Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 monogamy isn't for some people & polyamory isn't for some people. moral of the story: date someone that is in the same group as you. less drama that way. Truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinski Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 if you loose her by fucking around what's your problem? maybe instead of writing letters to eachother try to talk to her or something. or just start masturbating more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BCM Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 LOSE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pattern recognition Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 gastronomy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awepittance Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 If you want to fuck around with other women then you don't want to be in a long-term relationship. i think for most people this applies but certain people are capable of having long-term relationships with more than 1 partner ( i am not one of them) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Franklin Posted December 8, 2011 Share Posted December 8, 2011 this is a typical penis problem. 1) understand that VERY few women will tolerate cheating and usually leave their partners when they do. Most of the very few women who do tolerate it once typically have lifelong trust issues with the spouse/significant other. 2) Before engaging in that sort of affair try to imagine your G/F having another gentleman like yourself putting his penis into her. Do what you feel is best for you dude, but don't just listen to your penis. it really only wants one think and tends to forget/ignore potential consequences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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